I think the biggest thing that made the difference for me was realising (at a painfully late stage in my life) that I could act to make things turn out as I wanted them to - which has made my life into something that generally makes me much happier!
I think that there is a lot to do with genetics and with our very early, formative neurological experiences (literally how the brain is wired through what we experience when we are tiny babies) that shapes whether we are optimists or pessimists, and then that then gets overlaid by our subsequent experiences - positive or negative - as well, as to whether we expect that the world is a place that offers us good or bad things...
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Date: 2011-05-20 02:28 pm (UTC)I think that there is a lot to do with genetics and with our very early, formative neurological experiences (literally how the brain is wired through what we experience when we are tiny babies) that shapes whether we are optimists or pessimists, and then that then gets overlaid by our subsequent experiences - positive or negative - as well, as to whether we expect that the world is a place that offers us good or bad things...
And - yay! ;)